paintedlizards
Crazy Animal Lady
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Why do people have kids only to hand them off to a nanny 80 hours a week.
My last job I was with a 3 week old little boy starting 'a few' hours a week ( usually 10) they added hours till we were at about 50 ( 8-5pm) then some additional evenings. some early mornings. I lived 4 miles from them so I'd even take little D home with me from saturday night to monday sometimes so they could go two states away and visit ( drinking, parties ect) and not worry about him. from six months up i literally would just get there in the am...chat with mom, have breakfast ( we cooked together) and then do whatever I needed to do all day- WITH baby. it was a good arrangement. i took him to the dr. to santa pics to everything. I shopped for his clothes . . .
After 9 1/2 months of this he stopped wanting his parents when he'd fall. Or when I'd leave for the night and he'd have about 2 hrs of awake time with them before bed and he'd spend it WAILING. He started talking and called me mamma ( i NEVER encouraged this- I just didn't say anything but my name back... he'd say mama and i'd say Tina ). So end of story ... he's now in daycare for those hours ( a BIG place with lots of kids) and they have a new nanny and twins ( that she got via invitro when D was 6 months old or so- big rush).
my new bosses don't need a nanny. I work 20 hours a week. Three kids- 4, 8 months and 2. The dad always 'rescues' the 2 yo from me when he's crabbing ( usually bc i wont stuff him with crackers or let him paint his face with the watercolors...) which is usually from about 10am - 12 ( when he goes down for a nap- the one thing i'm allowed to make him do). and I just have the baby since the 4yo is in 'school' . The grandmas home too. Now the grandpa just retired. They all live together for the time being. I just feel useless. the baby sleeps from 9-1130 and then from 130-whenever ( i put him down and leave for the day) .. the 2 yo is down from 12 till after i leave. So i literally have 15 minutes of baby in the am... dad takes 2yo to drop other son off and run errands and then they come back around 11. I give him lunch, play outside for 20 minutes and then put him down and grab the baby. . . who plays on the floor with me for an hour and then naps too.
Dad is ALWAYS there. Grandma won't let me 'overtire' myself.
I don't understand why people have kids that someone else is raising 80 hrs a week. Or why they hire help that they won't allow to do their job.
My last job I was with a 3 week old little boy starting 'a few' hours a week ( usually 10) they added hours till we were at about 50 ( 8-5pm) then some additional evenings. some early mornings. I lived 4 miles from them so I'd even take little D home with me from saturday night to monday sometimes so they could go two states away and visit ( drinking, parties ect) and not worry about him. from six months up i literally would just get there in the am...chat with mom, have breakfast ( we cooked together) and then do whatever I needed to do all day- WITH baby. it was a good arrangement. i took him to the dr. to santa pics to everything. I shopped for his clothes . . .
After 9 1/2 months of this he stopped wanting his parents when he'd fall. Or when I'd leave for the night and he'd have about 2 hrs of awake time with them before bed and he'd spend it WAILING. He started talking and called me mamma ( i NEVER encouraged this- I just didn't say anything but my name back... he'd say mama and i'd say Tina ). So end of story ... he's now in daycare for those hours ( a BIG place with lots of kids) and they have a new nanny and twins ( that she got via invitro when D was 6 months old or so- big rush).
my new bosses don't need a nanny. I work 20 hours a week. Three kids- 4, 8 months and 2. The dad always 'rescues' the 2 yo from me when he's crabbing ( usually bc i wont stuff him with crackers or let him paint his face with the watercolors...) which is usually from about 10am - 12 ( when he goes down for a nap- the one thing i'm allowed to make him do). and I just have the baby since the 4yo is in 'school' . The grandmas home too. Now the grandpa just retired. They all live together for the time being. I just feel useless. the baby sleeps from 9-1130 and then from 130-whenever ( i put him down and leave for the day) .. the 2 yo is down from 12 till after i leave. So i literally have 15 minutes of baby in the am... dad takes 2yo to drop other son off and run errands and then they come back around 11. I give him lunch, play outside for 20 minutes and then put him down and grab the baby. . . who plays on the floor with me for an hour and then naps too.
Dad is ALWAYS there. Grandma won't let me 'overtire' myself.
I don't understand why people have kids that someone else is raising 80 hrs a week. Or why they hire help that they won't allow to do their job.
